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Meet Our Favorite Podcasts That Keep It Real About Divorce

If you look around, you’ll likely realize there are a lot of people in your circles who are divorced or going through a divorce. Building a support system is extremely helpful when you’re dealing with the end of your marriage. ... read more

7 Ways to Put Kids First In Your Divorce

Putting your kids first throughout your divorce helps minimize the effects of divorce on their lives. By framing each decision you and your ex make through the lens of “What’s best for the kids?” you can help your kids feel secure and loved even though their family dynamic is shifting.  ... read more

Miserable To Happy: Changing the Divorce Mindset

Divorce is a major change. Even with the most amicable divorces, the child’s world is turned upside-down when they have to move from house to house and realize that their parents will no longer be in the same home together. With Asher, he knew at just four years old that Ben was no longer living at the house. Kids are perceptive, and they often realize much more than we try to let on.  ... read more

Types of Custody Schedules That Put Kids First

Custody schedules are a critical part of any parenting plan. What worked best for us was that we viewed every decision through the lens, “Do what’s best for Asher.” That perspective helped us navigate the complicated world of custody schedules. However, every family is different and the task of custody schedules can be overwhelming. We’re here to help. Here’s a comprehensive guide of the different custody schedules that put kids first.  ... read more

10 Best Co-Parenting Blogs

Looking for advice about co-parenting? We know first hand that the initial stages of divorce are extremely difficult and it can be hard to navigate the whole new world of co-parenting. Even as life goes on, new questions about co-parenting ... read more

The Biggest Problem with Divorce and How To Fix It

The biggest problem with divorce is how it impacts the kids. The good news is that many of the most common issues children experience as a result of divorce are completely avoidable. When parents keep their focus on co-parenting and putting the children first, it’s easier for kids to adjust to their new lifestyle. ... read more

9 Secrets to a Happy Divorce You Might Not Know

Look, we all know divorce isn’t easy. It can be one of the most challenging experiences people will go through. But we know from experience that families can navigate the muddy waters of divorce and come out stronger on the other side. Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have been working on creating a healthy blended family for fourteen years now. They’ve learned a lot of little secrets to a happy divorce along the way. ... read more

Is Collaborative Divorce the Next Big Thing?

If you’re facing divorce and generally see eye-to-eye with your partner on most decisions, you may want to consider a different approach. What is a collaborative divorce? It’s basically a cross between mediation and litigation. It’s becoming an increasingly popular approach for couples who want to settle things on their own terms without getting a judge involved. And it’s the path the Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond followed and share in Our Happy Divorce. ... read more

How to be a Step-Parent That Kids Need and Adore

Stepparents have the opportunity to build a relationship with their stepkids that benefits everyone in the family. They can be a safe place for kids to share their feelings, ease the parenting stress on their spouse and introduce fun, new traditions to strengthen the family bonds. It’s not without its challenges, but step-parenting can be rewarding for the entire family when it’s done right. So how exactly do you do step-parenting right?  ... read more

8 Must Read Co-Parenting Articles

Co-parenting is a great way to create a happy, healthy family after divorce. But it’s still a relatively new concept, and it can be hard to find co-parenting articles to answer questions that come up. Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond share a lot of co-parenting tips from the trenches in their book, . These include simple things like syncing up calendars, to enjoying regular family dinners where both parents are present. But Nikki and Ben’s co-parenting methods aren’t the only ones that work. Lots of people are talking about co-parenting and sharing advice to help people be better parents after divorce. Here’s what other experts and co-parents are doing to keep the kids front and center.  ... read more